It’s long been known that nothing that is worthwhile is easy to do or easy to get.
“There is no free lunch” is an old saying that’s been around since the 1920’s depression era.
Art Williams is a self-made millionaire who, having worked as a high school coach, went into selling insurance. He decided one day to start his own insurance company. In the early years it is said that he was so terrified of starting out each morning that he’d throw-up from the stress of it.
But he overcame all that and eventually built one of the most successful businesses in America.
Notice I said “eventually“. That word can describe some of the longest timelines one could ever imagine. You start out doing something worthwhile and soon the ‘eventually’ kicks in. From then on it’s work and toil without much gratification.
That’s the way it’s been for every accomplished person since the beginning. I know, believe me, I know.
If you’re setting out to do something new try not to think of how long a word “eventually” will be for you. Your true story of accomplishment will be written in your tears and your brave moments when something finally clicked.
“Easy” never could make much of a compelling narrative in comparison to “tough” anyway. That story of accomplishment, created through the act of endurance, is your story. It belongs to you, and what it presents to you is the hard evidence that builds a strong irrefutable belief in you that says “yes”, you are worthy. That alone makes the journey worth it.
More power to you.
Mobiusman
PS: Did you know that persistence is not something that the head brain can produce but that the gut brain is fully in tune with? Find out how to train your head brain to know what your gut brain is doing to help you get through your “eventually”. Leave your comment below and I’ll tell you all about it.
The problem with people trying to help you with your mindset issues (other than giving the vaguest advice possible), is they fill your head with “one-liners”… things like…
“Repetition is the mother of skill!” — Tony Robbins
“Fall down 7 times, get up 8 times!” — Ancient Chinese proverb
“80% of life is just showing up!” — Woody Allen
And those things are helpful once or twice, but I know way too many people who have all the sayings
memorized, but they don’t follow them…
– Quote from a major internet marketer’s recent email.
I’ve waited a long time hoping to see it burst to the surface but now maybe it’s beginning to. Is traditional self-help loosing some of it’s footing?
For as long as I can recall, over the last three decades, no more than a handful have confided their true doubts in the lasting benefits offered by the self-helpers. I’ve been looking for people for years who might be open to admitting that, for the most part, they’re fed up with those who market personal development that costs a bundle but goes nowhere. Maybe now, because the stresses are so high, some brave and even well-known marketers (like the one I quoted above) are starting to call a spade a spade.
Napoleon Hill, for example, in all of his writings, talks about the importance of persistence and determination as being critical for success. But he never nailed it. Never actually told anyone what or where or how to locate these critical energy drives that are known to cause success in almost anything.
I’ve departed from the motivational conversations long ago. I don’t even see it as “motivational” any more since that is such a head-based thing. But these are not “head-based” energies. Persistence and determination are “gut-based” energies. I see it as much more advantageous to be more “immune-full” rather than “mindful”.
That’s because I’ve discovered something that I call “mindset immunity” and I believe it’s more descriptive of what we need now than what more advice and lame feel-good sayings might deliver. It’s a system of healing from failure the degree of which mirrors what the physical immune system does for the body. Timely and automatically.
It’s not naturally quick though. Fact is, in most people, mindset immunity it’s so slow and subtle you’d think it’s not even there at all. That’s why so few get to be hugely successful, at least financially, then the other 98% of us. Yet most do recover from defeat and a host of other emotionally-charged life events all by themselves without any outside help.
The time-worn methods of self help, personal development, positive thinking, (whatever you want to call it) is finally beginning to hit the glass wall. Not everyone can be fooled all of the time now and they’re beginning to put a voice to that thorn in their side.
I knew it would happen but didn’t think it would be so long coming. Of course I see that we have some super-critical types out there. Nego-commentators in this field are a rarity and I sometimes see them as good for entertainment value but not much else. They typically provide arguments that wildly spear the credibility of the famous – and some not-so-famous – self-help leaders but fail to provide workable alternatives to what’s being offered. I find them interesting but overly-radical although they do have a point when it comes to telling it like it is concerning all the hype coming of the numerous self-help promotional machines.
I recognize that people everywhere are in trouble. They are looking for something real. I myself have in conversations not been kind to the self-helpers – that’s true. I’ll admit to that. But at least I do usually finish up by explaining what it is exactly that’s wrong with their approach (hint: what they’re offering is almost always a “cocktail” mix of already old worn-out head-brain methods that they spin together so they can then call it their own… but don’t get me started on that now okay?)
I always try to turn it around and offer something to replace the broken methodologies that they’re desperately trying to work into their hapless lives. I tell them that the biggest problem is that they’re placing the cart-before-the-horse. The energy of natural motivation comes from something bursting out from the gut area that then causes a success to happen. Not getting all hyped-up on someone’s story of achievement and then tying to duplicate that same success for yourself.
Sorry. It’s not attractive but it’s true. You need to fail and sometimes often before you’ll ever see success. And the timeline can be long. That’s just the way it is.
I was not one of those early achievers myself and good thing I wasn’t. Without as much failure as I’ve had over the years I don’t think I would have discovered anything as significant a game-changer as an immune system that takes care of failure effects if I’d been in the class with the high-rollers. I needed something myself so I was forced to examine the unexplainable. It was critical in order to continue down a difficult, seemingly endless road. It’s a road that I’d not recommend to anyone without a tolerance for frustration or a lac of endurance to be sure.
That’s why I ended up building something that’s natural, organic, and is a part of what people are already truly made of. Persistence and determination are very personal. I have mine and you have yours.
All my new innovation does is help you to root out the core source of it so that it’s more manifest, more visceral, and even more visible. It re-defines us by making us aware of a strength we didn’t think we had. Thus re-making our own self-belief more real, more believable, and absolutely non-negotiable.
It re-aligns the shape of the new self-belief you could soon have in yourself. I’m just hoping that more and more strangely self-confident people with immune-powered mindsets soon break to the surface.
We need more like that to help us move on.
More power to you my friend.
PS: I’m still looking for more people who may be starting to feel that their personal development journey is not as good as advertised. If you’re one of those I’d love to hear from you. Please leave a comment in the box below or connect with me on Skype: “DavidtheMobiusman”. Make sure you mention this post or I won’t recognize you.
The ultimate skill of the truly creative person is their ability to survive change no matter how varied it may be.
Acquiring and then expertly utilizing already structured knowledge is the attribute of the very learned.
The creative person is uniquely interested in newness.
That, coupled with a passion for what they do, fires a gut-drive infused with persistence that sustains a vision that never changes.
It’s different than a dream.
It makes the timeline from start to finish, even if it’s very long (and it often is), seem more bearable.
Even when it looks like failure is following failure yet again this drive wins out because it won’t let them give up easily.
Another word for a creative person like that is “entrepreneur”.
In the 1920’s, and for many years after, Napoleon Hill interviewed one hundred and twenty-five of the most financially successful men of his day.
Know what he discovered? The top two attributes for their success was their persistence and determination. Not intelligence or connections. Too bad Hill himself never nailed down exactly what the nature of persistence and determination was and how to get more of it into your life. He instead got wrapped up in laws and lists of principals. More head brain work for you to do.
All that is a far cry from finally finding out what exactly it is that allows some to survive long periods of discomfort and to maintain a motivation through it all. For creatives who want to ‘make it’ on their own terms it’s as essential as air.
There’s a thing I often like to point out about belief. It’s the fact that it can only be developed two ways:
1) Through blind faith, which is usually based on a compelling argument, or
2) Based on some sort of tactile hard evidence.
This forms the basis of an observation.
There are two types of people in the world: There are those who can believe in something without actually seeing it and there are those who need hard evidence of its existence before the investment of their belief is forced out of them.
As today’s world shifts more and more towards the cynical belief in anything not proven with absoluteness seems increasingly rare. Yet it still exists. It exists for one reason. People require some semblance of hope just to carry on. They seek it everywhere. It’s as essential as the air we breathe.
As a student of entrepreneurship I know that things must be created and shipped even though they may not be perfected. Tweaks can be made latter. “Run it up the flag pole and see who salutes it” as the great copywriter Gary Halbert once said. That kind of productivity is scary. It can lead to many failures. But it can also lead to successes too. You just need to have the gumption to proceed.
Consider the mobius and how it elegantly demonstrates the duality principal yet again.
Belief, in its usual form, looks a lot like just another’s personal perspective and indeed it is. But, on the other hand, if you can get some sort of hard evidence then consider that a bonus.
It can disperse the strength of resistance and make the road forward more attainable.
Does shooting the negative thoughts then replacing them with positive ones work as well as we’re told?
Lot’s of important stuff happens in our brain that screams for attention. But what tops them all is pain and misery. Could another brain help fix negativity?
For years I’ve been watching how those who claim to assist and train others in being better and to become more successful and I’ve noticed something. There’s one main thing that they all love to suggest to everyone: They always advise us to shoot the negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones.
While I can’t disagree with the main core of that approach entirely I do have trouble with the methodology.
It is true that negative thoughts might cause us to under-perform so I’m not against doing something to eradicate them. But the coaches, motivational speakers, and psychologists all sing in the choir of the method known as “thought replacement”.
It works like this: You identify your negative thoughts and then replace those thoughts with positive ones. Now, on the surface that sounds pretty simple. Something anyone can do. But wait, there is a problem and here’s what it is: It’s a ton of impossible work.
Research has shown that the average human processes thousands of thoughts per day. That’s a lot of thoughts. Not only that but the experts estimate that of those thoughts about 70 percent of them, on average, are considered negative.
Hmmm.
So let’s see then. Let’s say have about 50,000 thoughts per day and 70 percent of them are negative then that’s a boatload of effort to replace all that. Not to mention the fact that as you are busy replacing those thoughts new thoughts are constantly being formed and 70 percent of those are quite possibly going to be negative as well.
If looking at it this way begins to give you negative thoughts about this article then I can’t blame you one bit. But read on, because I’ve got a workaround for this dilemma.
Seeing as the task of trading in all those negative thoughts for positive ones is virtually a never-ending one, at least the way that the great personal development gurus are teaching it, I think it’s time for something completely different.
To give this a new shocking perspective I’m going to have to introduce something that many of you have not heard of before.
First though I have to make one key observation. All of the advice that pertains to thought replacement is what I call bead-based. What I mean by that is that the focus is on the brain that’s in the head.
Of course, I do understand why they place such a lot of interest there. Thoughts, either positive or negative ones, appear to be made in the head so it makes sense to make this brain the prime site of repair. It’s well understood that the good old head brain is what people are thinking of when they talk about brains in general anyway. But what if it you were shown that your head brain has a partner brain you’ve not been made aware of yet?
Sounds like a weird thing to say, I know, but the fact of the matter is… it’s true, you have a second brain in your body.
In 1996 a cell biologist Dr Michael Gershon announced to the world through an article in the New York Times that he had found evidence that there is a crude brain in the gut of every human and it can, and does, act on its own.
For you this should be big news. It sure was to me since I had been using a new system of my own design to boost a person’s potential and to buffer the effects of negative thinking automatically since the 1990’s. Until I learned of this breakthrough discovery I didn’t know myself exactly why I was getting the results I was seeing. This system, what I playfully call ‘Brain Balming‘, I now realize depends on the release of the hidden steady energy available in the gut brain that soothes the upper-brain creating an elegant dual relationship between the two. (In fact, I’m working on a new book about this right now so stay tuned.)
There’s just one more thing you need to know. This strange gut energy that’s sending it’s steadying power northward to the head brain is not a physical thing it’s ethereal. But even so it’s powerful enough to render results that last and it’s all natural.
So why waste time trying to do the impossible (and the un-natural)? Just learn to use your gut brain as a buffer to your head brain’s suffering.
